The only time I ever get to read women’s magazines is when I am sitting in the doctor or dentist’s surgery, which I am pleased to say, is not very often. Whilst on my recent holiday, I did buy a magazine and was mainly bored with what I read. However, was amazed at an article in the Beauty Section – ‘One Line at a Time’.

The author was lamenting the loss of her beauty “… I’ve convinced myself that when you’re young and beautiful, you can reach out and grab the world and give it a damn good shake. Your wildest dreams could still become a reality, whereas beautiful for ‘your age’ means simply that. You’re an attractive woman, but your time of greatness has come and gone. If you haven’t made those dreams come true, you never will.” No, the author is not 95 … but 42!

She goes on to say, “So, at 42, I’ve realised that it’s time for me to take a deep breathe and get a grip. To enjoy what I have and to gently farewell what has passed.”

In 2012, do we still place that much importance on outer beauty? Okay, I admit that when I look in the mirror I do notice that I could lose some weight and tone up and yes, I do notice a few extra wrinkles and sunspots on my face and hands. However, no matter how I look on the outside does not affect my inner beauty or my desire to follow my dreams.

As women of 50 plus, we are beautiful inside and out and many are making their dreams come true to live the life of their choosing – regardless of any wrinkles.

My physical beauty does not impact how I feel about myself or what I can achieve. I am proud to be a woman in my mid-fifties who recently began a new business and authored her first book Now We’re Talking – inspiring stories for mature women. This book also includes stories of other ordinary women who are now doing extraordinary things, living their dream over the age of 50. My outer beauty has nothing to do with my achievements and having my dreams unfold.

The 42-year-old author finishes the article with “I will continue booking in for a little Botox now and again (goodbye forehead furrow), plus a touch of filler. The truth is, I like the way my top lip looks with just a teeny pinch of Restylane and I won’t be giving that up anytime soon.”

Groan!!!

I would really be interested to hear your thoughts on whether you think that, as a woman over 50, ‘your time of greatness has come and gone’ because you now have a few extra wrinkles and your skin is less supple. Just type your comments below and press submit.

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Regards,

Bev

8 Responses to “Beauty is Only Skin Deep”

  1. I agree with you wholeheartedly Bev. Don’t abandon dreams either … modify perhaps :-)

  2. 23rd October 2012

    Dear Bev,
    The topic you have written on has a resonance. A view that inculcates in so many the need to re-create their looks. This fits directly into the idea starting to encroach, that skin deep beauty is to die for. One fact is measurable — conceived by hard-headed business people in corporate offices –it lines the cosmetic companies’ pockets and that of their advertisers and validates their growth in the market in a tight economy.

    Beauty as I perceive it, is commensurate with a personality that for me shines as a person has empathy and is interesting to listen to while ensuring that she is inclusive when speaking to more than one.

    Most of us are familiar with the art of grooming …. and allowing for ‘bad hair days’ come up quite attractively with extra effort. So, it would reflect the shallowness of someone who would cast you aside because they perceived you didn’t come up to their stands with the right potted cosmetics.

    I was at the hairdresser this week and disbelievingly read disclosures of the 3 featured couples – the girls and guys were noticeably quite young at the peak of their good looks and you would you think stand out with their natural assets. In fact they were chosen as they looked good and fitted the magazine quest for glamour. I read on how beauty came at a price well in excess of $1,000 each for both the woman and man per month in order to look and present as attractive specimens.

    My questioning would be — How have you self-talked yourself into thinking skin deep beauty was worth squandering so much on? When as a natural aging process you develop a different look of beauty, how would you cope if the perceived image of yourself isn’t keeping up with reality?

    I am not against getting dressed up for occasions and rather love the mix of fashion sense (albeit on a budget) artistry and colour combinations etc. myself … but to be characterised for your looks and poses is creating a caricature of limited duration.

    Audrey Hepburn up to the time she died in her 60’s was marked for her beauty but had many other enduring and admirable qualities. Her prolific career gave way to using her status for improving the plight of disadvantaged children in Africa, Asia and Latin America where she travelled as a UNICEF Goodwill Ambassador. When she was interviewed and photographed with children in Africa with little or no cosmetics hiding her age she continued to shine and project beauty on account of her sense of purpose.

    Catherine Hamlin at 88 years old, a contemporary Australian continuing the work at Fistula Clinics that she and her late husband Reginald started in 2000 to serve a need that was not catered for in Africa. Her story is a harrowing yet captivating one that continues to resonate. At present, she is fighting to retrieve funds that have been misappropriated by the Australian charity that were supposed to work on the Foundation’s behalf in Australia. Her beauty and intent is evident, both I believe fuelled by her innate sense of purpose.

    Shirley Grubert-Gardiner

  3. Thanks Carmel. As we learn and grow our dreams can be modified however we have to continue pursuing them.

  4. Thanks Shirley for taking the time to write such a comprehensive reply. It obviously has touched a nerve for you. You noted that beauty is commensurate with personality and agree that this is what shines through when communicating with each other. There are many women like Audrey Hepburn and Catherine Hamlin who continue to ‘shine’ as they pursue their dream and their life purpose. Who we are speaks louder than our looks!

  5. I feel sorry for that writer. While I know I’m not perfect, I do know I’m loved and appreciated and I love the work I do and I know that I contribute to the community. I feel a sense of satisfaction. I also know I still have lots I want to do with my life. My hubby turns 60 at the end of this year and we have retirement not that far into the distance. And you know what? We’re looking forward to being able to spend more time together and do things together and do things we don’t currently have time for.

    I think she needs to find something to focus on in her life and get back that joy.

  6. Thanks Kathie. I think your final sentence sums it up well!

  7. If you can – why not?
    If you want to – why not?
    If it makes you happy and gives you joy – why not!!
    Each to his own or hers in this case and the world would be a sad place if we ALL did or didn’t!!

  8. Thanks Marijke for taking the time to comment. You are right, we are all different and should not be locked into thinking and doing the same thing!

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