“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?” “That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat “I don’t much care where – “ said Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat – Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland by Lewis Carroll
Don’t be like Alice, discover and decide which way you want to go. Discover your dream. Many of you are probably doing very well at something you don’t enjoy doing. Have you ever truly sat down and thought seriously about what you enjoy doing? What are you good at? What do you want to accomplish in your life? Are you living the life you dreamed of as a child, teenager or young adult? If you had a dream, what happened to it? Now is the time to design your life not let your life design you!
Keith Ferrazzi in his book Never Eat Alone refers to the ‘Blue Flame – where passion and ability come together’. He calls the blue flame “the convergence of mission and passion founded in realistic self-assessment of your abilities”. This helps you determine your life’s purpose – your passion or discovering your dream.
Joseph Campbell, as a graduate student of Columbia University in the early 1900’s, coined the phrase “Follow your bliss” He said “If you follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living.” Dr Campbell believed that deep within each person there’s an intuitive knowledge of what you want most in life. You only have to look for it.
1. Look inside. To do this you need to release yourself from all doubt, fears and limitations such as money, time, people and so on. What do you enjoy doing? What gives you a ‘buzz’? What gives you a deep sense of pride and satisfaction?
Of course I was fearful and doubted my ability as I decided to pursue my dream. As they say the only sure thing in life is death and taxes. When I was considering my life dream of becoming a speaker I didn’t stop to think whether or not I would be good one. That wasn’t important to me at this particular time. What mattered was that I was going to do what I loved. However generally you are good at what you like to do.
When I was a young girl I remember trying a wide range of different sporting activities. Generally if I wasn’t good at a particular sport I didn’t enjoy it and pursued those where I had success and therefore I enjoyed that sport. Why do something if you don’t enjoy it! You know deep down what you enjoy and are good at. Begin making a list of those things. This exercise should help you on your journey to discovering your passion. This is not a time for modesty. Be honest with yourself.
2. Look outside. Ask people who know you well, and you respect their opinion, what they admire about you. What do they think are your strengths and abilities? Over time you will gain a good personal profile, one which probably reinforces what you already know about yourself anyway. I am not a career guidance counselor or personal development coach so I recommend you ask those in your network for a recommendation of someone that could help you. They have access to personality profiles and resources that may assist with your self-discovery.
Once you open yourself to personal self discovery you may be surprise what find! Once you have discovered your dream or mission in life remember to – “Throw back your shoulders, let the heart sing, let the eyes flash, let the mind be lifted up, look upward and say to yourself ….. Nothing is impossible!” – Norman Vincent Peale