Are you a risk taker?

jumpRisk-taking means many things to different people.  For one person, it might be quitting a secure, well-paying job to begin a new business. For another, it could be deciding to leave a marriage after 20 + years or reporting someone within the company they work is being dishonest.

Though it may not appear so at first glance, psychological risks that summon us to put our personal values and beliefs on the line may ultimately feel more dangerous than those of physical boldness.  Yet these are the challenges that we are asked to face time and again if we are to continue to grow as vibrant, mature women.  Each time we take a risk that contributes to our personal growth or enhances our self-esteem or enriches our lives, we make the choice to stretch ourselves, knowing there are no guarantees and chancing possible failure.

Growth-producing risks generally fall into three categories.

Self-Improvement Risks

These are the risks you take when you want to get ahead, learn something new or make a distant dream a reality.  You take on the venture with hopes of enriching your life.  Maybe you want to change careers, or take singing lessons, or learn to speak French.  On one side of the risk is the person you are and, on the other, the person you want to become.

Commitment Risks

All commitment risks have emotional stakes whether you pledge yourself to a person or a relationship or to a cause, a career, or a value.  According to Joseph Ilardo, author of Risk-Taking for Personal Growth, if you avoid making emotional commitments, you all but guarantee that your emotional growth will be stunted.

Self-Disclosure Risks

Communication risks fall into the category of self-disclosure.  Anytime you tell someone how you really feel you’re taking the chance of self-disclosure.  When you open up to others and reveal who you really are, how you feel and what you want and need, you make yourself vulnerable.  It is impossible to be assertive without doing so.

All risks carry with them the possibility of failure.  Often, significant sacrifices must be made before any real benefits are realised.  Routines may have to change; the familiar may have to be released.  You may be rejected or humiliated.  In the case of commitment to a value, personal safety may be in danger.  Consider those who stand up for what they believe in or put their own health and well being on the line in the name of a cause.  Challenging yourself is often the key to personal growth and development.

Are you a risk-taker?  Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Does every decision involve endless debates with yourself?
  • Do you accept less than what you should because you’re afraid to speak up?
  • Do you have difficulty making emotional commitments to others?
  • Do you make up excuses that stop you from taking advantage of opportunities for self-improvement?
  • Does fear of disapproval keep you from doing what you’d really like to do?

A “yes” answer to these questions indicates a reluctance to take risks, which may mean you tend to play it safe and reject change.

Consider this: as a mature woman who wants to live productively for many years, to fulfill your potential, to discover your real self and live an authentic life, you must take risks.  And while security may appear to be the absence of change, the only genuine security lies in taking risks.

2 Responses to “Risk Taker”

  1. It is enormously challenging to claim yourself back from all the roles you have occupied through out your life. Some roles no longer serve a purpose, some roles are stale and boring – but they have formed the known comfort zone. The worst aspect of maintaining redundant lifestyle – you are wasting precious time to try something new and interesting.
    When we were younger -older women seemed to be quite content, but was this actually lost of hope and passivity.

  2. Very well said Ann. It is very easy to remain in the same roles as they feel secure. However it is when we step outside of our comfort zone and take a ‘small risk’ that we learn, grow and enjoy the benefits of a new, invigorated lifestyle.

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